Results: the anxiety is over or has begun?

Hi friends awaiting results of the board exams or who have already got the same

The result may be unbelievable to many who have scored very high.  Kudos to your efforts and hardwork which has borne fruit.  All the best for your future plans.  You may turn out to be a Doctor, engineer, Scientist, IT professional and so on.  And again, thanks to you all for having done excellently so that the vacancies for commerce graduates, chartered accountants, arts, journalism or other avocations will not be filled by you but will be the cup of tea of those who have not scored as well as you all.  So those who have not scored as well as the toppers can have solace in these courses as they offer a wide variety and interest to those who have a passion for it.  If you cannot be placed in any of these, you can pursue a vocation in other courses like medical transcription, multimedia, and the like.

Those who have got a slightly lesser mark when your parents and peers have expected more, take it in the right spirit.  Heavens are not going to fall.  You have fared well.  In the yester years,  an 80% was considered as a very great mark and the person scoring will be regarded as a well educated and smart person.  So don’t lose heart because your friends have got a centum or 98%.  You have got a full life to go and many centums to score in future.  This is not the end.  Moreover, you cannot always say for sure that a person scoring centum in 10^th or 12^th class will score centums in all walks of life.  Analyse your strengths apart from academics and try to pursue a goal which is very close to your heart or which is your passion.

And now, coming to those who have not made it successful in the examination.  For some it may be expected.  For some it may be disappointing.  For some it may be very depressing and painful.  The first step for you will be breaking the news to others, especially to anxious parents and peer group.  Prepare yourself to take the news.  It may be mostly because of two reasons,  not understanding the subjects and not making any effort to understand , or the second as simple as that, lethargy and  callous attitude.  Having said that,  have the courage to face the others, prepare your parents and peers for the worst by giving them some indication beforehand so that they will not be utterly disappointed.  Slowly their expectations will come down.  Still they may have some hope.  As for as you are concerned,  one step is over.  The next will be to think about the next course of action.  Having faced this result,  prepare yourself mentally not to face any such results in the future.  Plan the next, whether you are going to rewrite the exam, whether you are going to take private tuitions or tutorials to pass.  The next time you are going to pass and come out with flying colours.  

To all my dear friends, my humble request is to be courageous to face anything and not to take any extreme steps to avoid being ridiculed or criticised by others.  You openly tell them beforehand not to expect much from the result.  And the next is that it is your life and not that of others who criticise.  As regards parents, let them vent out their feelings.  That is only due to a concern for you.  As regards others, just ignore.  Life is more important.  You are worth more than the marks you score.  You are a person with flesh and blood and a heart to show emotions and empathy.  If you cannot make a mark academically, you can definitely make a mark as a social conscious person, a responsible son, an affectionate sibling and a helpful neighbour.  

All the best for your whole life. 

Some famous persons who have faced failures and how they became famous without losing their lives.

• Beethoven’s music teacher once told him that as a composer, he was hopeless.
• Winston Churchill failed in the 6th grade.
• John Creasy, the English novelist who wrote 564 books, was rejected 753 times before he became established.
• Charles Darwin’s father told him he would amount to nothing and would be a disgrace to himself and his family.
• Walt Disney was fired by the editor of a newspaper because he, Disney, had “no good ideas”.
• When Thomas Edison was a boy his teacher told him he was too stupid to learn anything.
• Einstein was four-years-old before he spoke. He spoke haltingly until nine years of age. He was advised to drop out of High School. And his teachers told him he would never amount to much.
• Henry Ford’s first two automobile businesses failed.
• Bill Hewlett and Dave Packard’s early failed products included a lettuce-picking machine and an electric weight-loss machine.
• Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.
• Ray Krok failed as a real estate salesperson before discovering the McDonald’s idea.
• Akio Morita and Masaru Ibuka sold only 100 of an automatic rice cooker which burned the rice. Later, they built a cheap tape recorder for Japanese schools. This was the foundation of Sony Corp.
• Isaac Newton failed at running the family farm and did poorly in school.
• Steven Spielberg dropped out of high school in his sophomore year. He was persuaded to come back and placed in a learning disabled class. He lasted a month.
• The artist Whistler failed in chemistry, failed at West Point and failed at engineering before turning his hand to art.

A small note to parents:  Be there for your child, whatever he/she may score.  Your love and support will help them face the worst.  Please do not get disappointed at the marks and behave harshly .  Ultimately your anxiety is because you want your child to be a successful person in life,  To have a successful child, you should have one in the first instance.  Know your child in and out, speak to them with an open mind .  Comfort them, do not confront them. After all, they have nobody in this world except you.