Best parental behaviour:
Case 1 : Child son/daughter has broken a showpiece. There is a big bang
and the child is afraid. You have noticed it. The child takes a few steps backwards and cringes to the wall. What will you do?
1. Shout at the child for the wrong behaviour
2. Slap the child so that it is not repeated
3. warn the child of consequences if such things happen in future
4. hug the child and tell not to worry
Though the first three behaviours are normally the behaviour of any irritated parent, the fourth behaviour brings the best results.
1.Shouting at the child will indicate that whenever somebody commits such mistake in future, the child has to shout. So the child may shout the next time you or any of your friends or family members do such things in front of the child.
2.Slapping the child who is already afraid, may increase the fear in the mind of the child which may even result in the child becoming very timid and psychologically disturbed. On the other hand, the child may also become very violent. He takes it as a licence to hit anybody, be it friends or siblings when they commit such things.
3. Warning the child, although is better than the first two behaviours,
Will only make the child over cautious and the child may act consciously. But the same thing may give the child a freedom to warn you also if you do something which the child does not like.
4.Hugging the child is the most unexpected thing for the child. The child is already afraid and cringes to the wall, He expects that something bad awaits him for what he has done. But he has done it unintentionally . Hence if the child is hugged and told not to worry, initially, the fear in the mind of the child for the parent goes and the child becomes more friendly and closer. At that time the parent can explain to him that he has to be very careful while handling such things. The child not only learns how to handle a delicate thing, he also learns how to handle many delicate things in life. He will present the most dignified attitude during a crisis.
All of us want our child to behave in the manner mentioned in point no.4,
So why not we in the first instance?